You’re a woman living in the 21st century and as a result you’re quite possibly finding it hard to manage work and/or family life in a way that feels harmonious to you? Maybe you are feeling like no-one is getting enough of you, least of all yourself? Expected to be super efficient at work, 50’s house-wife at home and dynamite in the bedroom! Perhaps there’s an underlying feeling of overwhelm as you struggle to connect with your creativity and maybe you lack the energy/drive to implement ideas? Relationships with those around you are suffering as you’re emotionally exhausted.

You may have tried asking your nearest and dearest to step up, getting some time off work, hiring a cleaner, joining a yoga class… but still, day-to-day life remains an upwards struggle.

Studies* have shown that the sad truth is that women in the western world have more power than they have ever had before yet they are less happy than they were 40 years ago and face frighteningly high levels of burn out. This is because the power it took to get us where we are, to create amazing opportunities, to compete and to be taken seriously is not the power that is going to sustain us. Why? Because we are women trying to live like men. The good news is that there are ways you can still be in your power at home and/or at work in a way that honours your femininity and leaves you feeling whole.

In Transformational Life Coaching we can discover how

  • Everything starts with replenishing your energy

  • Profound transformation comes from unlocking the resources that you already have

  • The magic that happens when you consciously choose to come from a place of “soft power” has a profound and lasting impact on all areas of your life

  • As a woman you are cyclical (whether you are still menstruating or not) and living by this cycle is imperative to having a happy and healthy life

  • True joy is in finding your true self and expressing that in the world

  • You can be free from the past when you accept it’s contribution to your purpose and forgive

  • There is treasure chest of tools and resources waiting to be opened, that is there to help you handle life’s challenges

FAQs

I’m struggling with everything at the moment, I wouldn’t know what to focus on in a coaching program.

Challenged in your personal as well as professional life? Overwhelmed by it all? Unsure what aspect to focus on? You are not subdivided into separate categories; mother, lover, worker… You are a whole and complex mandala of all these roles and they all inter relate. Just as relationship difficulties can affect your work life, having a hard time with your kids can be a real weight on your relationship. In life coaching, we can work with all of this to empower you in all aspects of your life

I’m peri-menopausal and suffering from general overwhelm! How can coaching help?

You’re in your 40’s or 50’s and experiencing a whole myriad of physical and emotional challenges? Maybe you’re having trouble sleeping, debilitated by hot flushes, want to leave your work, husband or kids!? Perhaps your mood is low or you are anxious about navigating day to day life? The first step is knowledge, understanding how these radical hormonal shifts are having an impact on you and how to adapt. The second step is making long lasting life choices without (in Alexandra Pope’s words) “burning the house down!”. Coaching is an ideal place for reflection and implementation with care, love and spaciousness.

I’m worried that coaching is more of a commitment than I can manage.

Concerned about purse-strings and time constraints? Unsure you can commit to a 12 week program? Yes, coaching is a financial and practical commitment. As well as the regular sessions, there will be some integration assignments to do on your own as well as some reflective practices. This is how transformation happens, through commitment and a desire to take coaching to its full potential.

How it works

Firstly contact me to book a free 20 minute discovery call so you can find out if coaching will be helpful for you. Before the call I will send you a link to a free Woman’s Powertype questionnaire. This can lay the foundations of your program as you will find out which are your more pronounced power types and which ones could do with more work (more will be revealed!). This is something we can build on in our sessions together.

The program comprises12 sessions (either in Zoom or in person in Oxford) where we can work on any area of your life where you feel you need support. Of course we may go “off piste” but we will very much be in partnership on this journey and any change of direction will be with your agreement.

In the words of the International Coaching Federation coaching is;

“Partnership with clients in a thought provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximise their personal and professional potential, which is particularly important in today’s uncertain and complex environment”

Cost

£1,200 for the 12 week program paid in full on booking.

This includes additional email support throughout the program.

“Bella helped me to find clarity and plan strategies for establishing boundaries, which helped both my work and home life. She gave me the tools to be able to help myself and sustain a calmer way forward.  I made considerable progress in the 12- week programme and I continue to use the methods and resources to help me personally, and others that I support at home, and at work. Since completing the programme a couple of months ago I have made great strides. I have made the decision to focus on my needs as well as others, particularly at home, and I have taken steps to carve a new future for myself at work by redesigning a new role within the organisation.”

Shan, Durham

*The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness By Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers, University of Pennsylvania